My Mother, My Fortune

My mother, and me.

We all celebrate Mother’s Day because who doesn’t love to honor our mothers? Like most holidays, this tradition dates back to the pagans when in ancient Greece the celebration was in honor of Rhea, the mother of the gods. And in Rome, Cybele, a mother of goddesses, was worshipped as early as 250 B.C. But the tradition was more deeply cemented thanks to Anna Jarvis of Philadelphia. On May 12, 1907, having lost her mother two years earlier she held a memorial service at her late mother's church in Grafton, West Virginia. Her belief was that children tended to neglect their mothers until it was too late. So she campaigned for a national observance of Mother's Day and convinced her mother's church to celebrate Mother's Day on the second anniversary of her mother's death -- the second Sunday of May. Then in 1914 it became official when President Woodrow Wilson proclaimed Mother's Day as a national holiday to be held each year on the second Sunday of May. I had always thought it was Hallmark who jumped started the tradition looking for another way to sell cards. Although they may not have started it, they certainly have capitalized on it. Mother's Day is the third-largest card-sending holiday in the United States, with an estimated 139 million greeting cards expected to be purchased this year. Instead of buying a card, I decided to create my own type of card by writing a post, a love letter to honor my mom.

Now, traditionally I’m not a big believer in these types of holidays. Not because I feel we shouldn’t celebrate our mothers or fathers or grandparents, etc. But because I’ve always been of the opinion that I don’t need a specific date or someone else to tell me to honor a person I love. Why not praise them everyday? But I get it. So, here I go jumping on the bandwagon to celebrate my special someone especially since I was the one to make her a mother first. And unlike Anna Jarvis, I try to express my adoration for my mom as often as possible, but it does feel good to make it even more momentous on this day, and lay it on thick.

She is a gem through and through. A darling of child grown into a woman of old fashioned upbringing that places value on respect, being kind to others, being gracious and generous. Loving and giving, supportive. She’s all that and more. A face of an angel.

A teacher, a guider and one who puts family first always. Her greatest gift to us was instilling the family bond, and sibling love. A bond never to be broken. I’m not a mother, but my sisters, who are great mothers themselves had the best teacher, and have instilled the same in their children. She showed us the importance to sticking together. And we have and we do.

She honored her mother, and mother in law, and handed down traditions.

She has shown us what true love and devotion is. For anyone who has ever met my parents they are witness to the extraordinary love they share, and the enduring example they have set.

And when it comes to fashion there was nothing old about her. She was pure glam and had tremendous fashion sense. She dressed to the nines and looked like a movie star. Well, one movie star in particular… Sophia Loren.

I remember my mom telling me that she once saved up an entire week’s salary to buy one dress. If you were to calculate that in modern day’s dollars that was one pricey dress. I still have some of her clothes and hats and wear them with pride.

Sophia Loren, not my mom but could be…

But she is so much more than her fashion and stunning beauty. She is a decent, loving, giving soul who had energy to spare. As kids, she would venture out with all of us, my cousins included, to take us on field trips; to Wollman Skating Rink, The Museum of Natural History, Jones Beach. She would pack us into the car and away we went. She was an avid supporter of anything we did, always showing up at our sports practices and games, cheering us on. She is the mother of all mothers, as is evident in the the glow on her face whenever she is holding a child - her own, her nieces/nephews, her grandchildren.

She is an awesome grandmother, aunt, sister, sister-in-law, friend, wife and an exceptional mother. I could go on and on, but I’ll let a poem I wrote awhile back for her 70th birthday do the rest of the talking and let all these images bring a smile to your face. I know they will because whenever I see her face and that smile, I can’t help but be filled with joy.

My Mother - My Fortune

I have considered myself fortunate all my life,
Never truly understanding my lack of great strife.
Fortune has different meanings to each and every one
But for me, and my siblings, it’s the definition of our Mom.
Adrienne Fortune, her name bears what she delivers
Her goodness and love is as long as any river.
She is the warmth of a blanket on a cold winter’s night,
She is the sun kissing your face, so warm, so bright
She is the breeze that cools you by the side of the bay
She is the laughter of a child on any given day
Our mother knows no other way
This is how she would spend each and every day
Giving to others their every want and need
She will give of herself without any heed
She is a woman full of grace
Full of love that lights her face
She is a woman of simple goals
The purest ones remain untold
The strongest woman I’ll ever know
She is the angel who has guided us to and fro
She complains not, asks not and does not hurt a soul
Treating everyone with kindness has been her title role.
My fortune has been great, and it started with my great fortune
A daughter
A sister
A wife
An aunt
A friend
A grandmother
A Mother, My Mother, My Fortune

My mom and me

My mom and me

My mom and me

Happy Mother’s Day, Mom. I love you more than these words and pictures could ever convey.

Happy Mother’s Day to all those who have selflessly given their love and guidance to the children in their lives.

Photo credit thanks to my dad, Uncle Paul (mom’s bro) and my brother.

The Bud of Love - Flowers, A Wedding & More

Love... Love... Love  
Love... Love... Love
Love... Love... Love
There's nothing you can't do that can't be done...
All you need is love
Love is all you need

Yes, it was The Beatles who famously sung it, but it is a sentiment that rings true and brings joy wherever and whenever shouted out loud.

Love; a big word indeed, and widely overused for some.  For me, not so much.  I believe that when set forth with full intention it does not matter how often it is used.  As a matter of point, when used in that manner, the more the better.  

Alyssa and Nikki

Alyssa and Nikki

Love can show up in the big and small flavors of life.

 

I try spinning it throughout the energies I put out in the world, like in my children's books and in this blog. Yet there is nothing more exciting than it's most obvious and most common form; the budding of a new love. The strong and steady build and flourish of a new partnership. The expression of love in all its forms. Stirring life with it and swirling around to envelop all that surrounds it.  Weddings have just that. An enormous capacity to pull you into the swell of that sweet and beautiful and blossoming thing.  Such was the swirl we all felt 5 years ago when my sister, Alyssa married Peter. 

In celebration of their half decade wedding anniversary and the love that continues to flourish each year, travel back with me as I dedicate this post to their wedding love.  

So I shall start with the love story that began years ago when JuanCarlos and I got married at my sister, Alyssa’s home.  An act of love in opening her home to greet  friends and family to rejoice in our union.  There was an abundance of love there.  So it only seemed fitting that when Alyssa and Peter were searching for a wedding venue that we offered up our home.  What loves around comes around.

Our yard, ready to give and receive LOVE.

Our yard, ready to give and receive LOVE.

As with my wedding, many aspects were home grown, made from scratch.  We aimed to do the same for her wedding.  From JC's design of the invitations to creating living room spaces around the property, and of course the floral arrangements and bouquets.  Even the guests gifts. Boxes upon boxes of home made family recipe cookies, completely stirred and tied up with love.

Boxes upon boxes of homemade goodness.

Boxes upon boxes of homemade goodness.

Sure having a wedding planner do all the nitty gritty is a lovely luxury anyone would enjoy, but there is a certain sense of satisfaction in creating and offering all of yourself.  All the small touches that mark the difference.

The florals help set the tone and add that special touch to any event.  But wedding flowers can be a huge expense.  It’s one of those items that are needed to complete the picture and enhance the scene but guests may or may not notice them.  Why spend a fortune when you can do it just as beautifully for a fraction of the cost? You don't have to be a professional to get a great look.  Find ideas that appeal to you  and aim to emulate them.  I did it for my wedding, creating all the table arrangements and all the bouquets and so it would be the same for my sister’s big day.  Our plan of attack; get up at the crack of dawn and head into NYC's floral market on 28th street. With a color scheme in mind, and some ideas of flower types, we went on our hunt. The joy of going to a market like this is the sheer abundance.  The additional joy.  Sharing this moment with my sister and her daughter, Gianna, creating a memory to last a lifetime.  
 

Just like with food shopping, you may go in with a plan but it's best to just see what is fresh and vibrant and choose the cream of the crop. We walked away with boxes of glorious color and buds. Once at home, the assembly of our masterpieces began and quickly grew into a floral garden on my dining room table.

Gianna, always my tried and true helper.  I can always count on her.

Gianna, always my tried and true helper.  I can always count on her.

And then filled the party with bursts of happiness.  Maybe these can serve as an inspiration for your next floral creation.

Calla lilies, Alliums and Eucalyptus

Calla lilies, Alliums and Eucalyptus

The bridal bouquet

The bridal bouquet

Table florals, with another type of earth's bounty. Liquid Grapes.

Table florals, with another type of earth's bounty. Liquid Grapes.

Roses and Dianthus

Roses and Dianthus

The infusion of magical moments were everywhere, yet none more incredible than seeing my sister emerge stunning and elegant wearing a smile that took your breath away.

The bride

The bride

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Our Dad, ever the proud papa doing his duty and looking quite dapper.  (And yes, we needed the fans.  July 7th and 92 degrees!!)

Our Dad, ever the proud papa doing his duty and looking quite dapper.  (And yes, we needed the fans.  July 7th and 92 degrees!!)

 

Love turned up in the obvious and not so obvious places.

Nicolette Grace performing her flower girl duties with grace.  (That wicker basket was used by Gianna & Michella when they were flower girls in my wedding.  Truly, what loves around comes around. Yes, I kept them for 11 years.  Yo…

Nicolette Grace performing her flower girl duties with grace.  (That wicker basket was used by Gianna & Michella when they were flower girls in my wedding.  Truly, what loves around comes around. Yes, I kept them for 11 years.  You never know when you may need something.  Hehe)

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Having the time of her life as Gabrielle, our niece looks smashing in black and gold.

Having the time of her life as Gabrielle, our niece looks smashing in black and gold.

Cousins gathered together having a blast. Gianna, Michella, John and Gabrielle.

Cousins gathered together having a blast. Gianna, Michella, John and Gabrielle.

Gifts for the ones she loves.

Gifts for the ones she loves.

Bulgarian Bread Ceremony

Bulgarian Bread Ceremony

The candle lighting bearers of light.

The candle lighting bearers of light.

Peter, and his son Denis

Peter, and his son Denis

No matter what the task, Jill, Alyssa's twin sister, is always there to help.

No matter what the task, Jill, Alyssa's twin sister, is always there to help.

LOVE IS ALL YOU NEED

A family full of love and joy.

A family full of love and joy.

Our home, the flowers and decor in all their beauty were just the backdrop to what was the true beauty of the day;  the bud of love between Alyssa and Peter. 

 

Happy Anniversary, may Love always light the way.

Note:  All photos in this post were taken by my talented husband, JuanCarlos.  Check out more of his work here.